Founded: Mar, 2008
Founder: Alycia
Description: My M-I-L is driving me nuts! Anyone have a Mother-In-Law that likes to criticize where she has absolutely no right, spoils one child while ignoring another, etc, feel free to rant with me! My M-I-L will never see this!
Wow, he sounds like a great guy! NOT!You know, if your FIL is the problem in your life and not your MIL, why not vent about him here? He is still an in-law, after all!
Thanks for the warm welcome Alycia. My MIL and USED to get a long, that was before she so selfishly moved back down south with with my father in law (because of him they have lived in 20 different places in the last 20 years, he's got a foul mouth and is lazy and cannot keep a job for more than a year) whom likes to keep her isolated from her grand kids!! They are three states away from us and four and half hours away from my bro-in-law and his kids. He used to complain when she wanted to come down and babysit the kids, heck he even got mad at her when she wanted to come back up north for HER OWN MOTHER's 80th birthday!!! I think we need a site for those of us who cannot stand our FILs either!!
Well, this past weekend went better than I expected. My MIL wasn't that bad, except for the fact that she drove my husband crazy telling him that he was going the wrong way, we were going to be late for the wedding, etc, on Friday, and that she messed with the thermostat which neither me or my husband noticed until Sunday night- after she had already gone home-when it was cooler outside around here, so we started getting cold inside the house with the air on, and she had, at some point turned it down a few degrees. Which explained why the air conditioner was on all day, we just didn't notice. How she figured out how to change our digital thermostat, when all she has is the old dial type, I will never know. She is good, I guess. I know my 6-year-old didn't tell her how to do it because he doesn't know how to work it.
Thanks, Jennifer, we had a good weekend, we didn't go anywhere though, but my MIL was good while we were at the store on Friday. I know, it sounds like she is a kid, but that is how she acts sometimes, like a spoiled brat. Gee, I wonder where my kids get it from when she is around? I bet next week I am going to have a story or two, my cousin is getting married on Friday, and Saturday is my husband and my 6th anniversary, so my MIL is going to be spending the whole weekend with us so we can borrow her van to go out and so she can watch the boys!
wow alycia what a story. i would have been beyond the point of being pissed. especially since you could have taken your kids to the fair. regardless of their ages they would of had fun. well hang in there. hope you have a better weekend
Welcome Denise! I see no one has any new stories. I have one that happened last weekend. Our van is basically dead in our driveway, (thank God my husband has a work van, or we would be in major trouble) so if we need to go anywhere, the only available vehicle is my mil's van. She takes me and my sons to the grocery store on Friday, mainly so she can spoil my oldest son. Anyway, on Friday when she came to pick us up to go shopping, she informed me that our nephew's birthay party was going to be at her house on Sunday (last minute notice, I know. My bil is living with her because he is 'seperated' from his wife, and he doesn't know if he is going to get his son and daughter for the weekend until the last minute on Thursday-the whole situation is a novel in itself, so I won't get into that now). I asked her if she would need the van on Saturday then, because if not I wanted to take my sons to the county fair to play some games and maybe ride some rides, etc. She started whining about how was she going to get the food and the cake for the party if we had the van, she would have to buy a cake already made instead of having one made special like she does for his sister, whine, whine, whine! Meanwhile I am thinking why not get the stuff while we are out now, and what about my bil's truck? Can't he take you? So, to stop her from whining anymore I said that's ok, the boys are only 6 and 2, maybe we should not go this year and wait until they are a little older to ride the rides, it's fine. She does order the cake while we are at the store. Fast forward to Sunday, it is 11:30 a.m., my husband and I are waiting around here, we know that it is too early for him to go get her van becuse she doesn't get up until 11 a.m. My bil calls and asks why my husband hasn't come for the van yet. 'No, she doesn't have to go anywhere.' Ok good, then she did get the stuff Saturday, so I am not mad that we didn't get to go to the fair. We get to her house, she comes out, purse in hand, and tells my husband to take her to the store to get the cake and the food (chips, salads, buns) for the party! She didn't go anywhere Saturday after all. She sat on her ass playing games on her computer all day and night! (typical for her) Then, as if that wasn't bad enough, while they are gone, she calls her house to tell me and my bil that they are going to be home soon, please put the hamburgers and hot dogs that she already had at home on the grill. We do that, they are done, they are cold, we are starving, the kids are eating hot dogs with no buns and nothing else, they finally come back, 2 hours after the call, and my husband tells me that she suddenly decided to go shopping at Wal-Mart. Not for anything in particular, just to see what was on sale. I couldn't believe it. Needless to say, my husband wasn't happy about it either, since he was basically held captive. The only thing that would have made that trip to Wal-Mart acceptable is if she had to buy a present for my nephew, but she didn't, it was already at the house.
The comment you made about not seeing your MIL since you joined this group seems to be the theme here, everyone who joins throws in one story, which is the whole point, and then haven't been heard from again. I wonder if that is true for everyone, they join this group, and either their MILs get nicer, or they don't see them for a while so they don't have any new stories. I have seen mine, she watched my boys for 3 days last week while I had my garage sale, but since she was in the house with them and I was out in the garage, I don't know exactly what went on with them. Both of my boys are still alive, so it wasn't a bad experience for her, I guess.
Hi. I will tell you a story about the brainless person my MIL is. When I gave birth to my last son, she came to see me at the hospital. She had the biggest cold sore I have ever seen, which is contagious. SHE KISSED my new born, OMG. This is an old story because fortunately, since I joined this group, I haven't seen her, lol. I am so sad, lol.
I am so glad to have found this group! My MIL has a tendency to butt in to our lives and tell me what to do. I do love her, and at times she can be very helpful, but sometimes she crosses the line. Next time she really irritates me I'll know where I can vent!
Welcome Sarah! Hey everyone! I have an update on my MIL, on Friday, we went to the store, and on occasion she watches my BIL's kids when he has them on the weekends but has to work. Well, my niece wants to help her in the garden and wanted some gloves, so my MIL used my 5-year-old son to determine what size gloves she should buy for my niece. In doing so, my son said he wanted a pair. He already has 2 pairs (one she bought him before, and personalized ones my dad got him last year)I told her and him not to get him any since he already has 2 pairs at home. Well, she went ahead and got them anyway. I didn't know this until we got home, because I was getting the stuff I needed at the store and watching my 2-year-old in my cart (the 5-year-old was in her cart, as usual, that way he gets stuff that my 2-year-old and I don't know about). So, this past weekend was cold and rainy, and the gloves didn't make it into the garage, and one apparently got lost in the house somewhere over the weekend. My MIL comes over on Sunday, notices that one of the new gloves is missing and starts in on me about not taking care of them! My husband and I both told her then that 1, she shouldn't have bought them for him because I told her not to, 2, he is 5 and doesn't quite understand how to take care of stuff and plays with everything she buys for him, which she knows about, and 3, if she wanted them for her house she should have taken them to her house. Well, she started pouting after that and left.
HEllo all, I am new to all of this but i saw this group and i had to join!!! i may be one of the few that love and respct their M I L but i also cant stand her at times. i think this is a wonderful place and i cant wait to vent here next time she gets under my skin!(i'm sure it will be very soon) thanks for creating this group
My mil was supposed to watch the kids for me tonight and she wanted to bring them to her instead of coming to my house. I had to be somewhere and be back by a certain time and didnt have time to run them to her. So I canceled my plans. I really despise her. Its whatever is best for her. I never have problems ranting about her. I always have something to tell.
How is everything going with everyone? It seems like since I started this group my mil hasn't been as "bad" as before. I wonder if she found out about this! LOL! None of us have added any new stories lately, is that the same for the rest of you? Mils not as "bad" as we thought?
Welcome Stacey and Theresa! Stacey, I too am sorry to hear about your Grandma. My mom passed away 14 years ago the day after Christmas. The holidays just weren't the same until I had my boys, now it is better for me, since it is mostly about them. When it comes to Christmas, my MIL is all for getting tons of toys for my oldest son, and when I mention that I have to get 1 or 2 more presents for my 2-year-old to make everything even (which is how I like to do it, sounds fair, right? I am an only child, but I would have been upset if I had a sibling that got more presents than me)she says "Oh, right, I guess I should get something for him too." I am glad my 2-year-old is still too young to understand that kind of stuff.
Stacey, I am so sorry to hear about your grandmother. My father died on Christmas Eve 9 years ago and the holiday is still not the same. As far as your MIL goes, my mom is that way with my youngest child. She watches my brother's two girls and has never watched my son.
Hi, I am a stay at home mom of 3 kids. I am so glad I found this group. My MIL is so annoying. She thinks just because I stay at home she can volunteer me to pick up or babysit my brother in laws kids. I have enough on my hands with my 3 kids I don't need extra. And she watches all the other grandkids but she never wants to watch ours. It really makes me mad. My nephew stays with my mom and dad so they don't want to watch my kids either. My grandma which helped me out the most just passed away this last December right before Christmas. She was buried on Christmas Eve day. My MIL thinks she knows everything. She is always in charge when she is around. Thank you for letting me rant.
My husband and I had been together for 3 years when he asked me to marry him. That weekend we went to my MIL's house. My husband Sean announced to his mother "Mom, I have some good news. I am getting married." I was standing there, she turned around, looked me in the eye's, then looked at my husband, and said "To who?". She started to cry and walked out of the room. We still went ahead and got married and to her chagrin have been married for 7 years now.
That is very true, Mary, God Bless the great mils in this world. My mil has been quite nice lately, and she has also been going to the doctor quite a bit lately. I wonder if there is something going on that she isn't ready to share yet...
While my mil now does sometimes drive me crazy, I have to tell you about my ex mil, may she rest in peace. My ex mil was the most wonderful person. After her son and I got divorced she actually apologized to me for him being such an a**. I would take my two kids to her house just about every weekend. Their father never wanted to see them or pay child support but his mom helped out the best she could. My ex mil passed away about 5 years ago and I was the one who helped make the arrangments, because I was closer to her than anyone. It guess it goes to show you that not every mil is the same. LOL
my ex mother in law doesn't think they are big enough and the germ thing. but my kids have been climbing since they were little little. she just has to be in charge cause she thinks i'm an unfit mother. Alycia i think it is great that your mil got a pizza for both kids.
Hi, Jennifer! I am totally not critizing,I will never do that on purpose, but wow, have you got a story. I didn't know you could live in senior housing and not be a senior. Or have they just not been caught yet? Why doesn't your MIL want the kids on the ladders at the park? Is she afraid the kids might get germs or something? They have hand sanitizers for that. My MIL surprised me the other day-she usually spoils my 5 year old son and ignores my 2 year old son, but on Wednesday she came by to take my 5 year old to Pizza Hut for his Book-It pizza reward (just him, not me and my 2 year old but he was taking a nap so I let it go)and they came back with a personal pizza for the 2 year old! I don't know who's idea it was, but it sure surprised me.
well i have an ex mother in law who is still in my life because of the grandkids. but she blames me for ruining her sons life and blames me for the kids being taken by CPS. i know now that living in an RV isn't suitable for living in it as a home so i have moved and i have done everything that the courts have told me to do but my ex mother in law says its all my fault and her poor sons life is ruined because of me.. i feel like if she hadn't babied him which she still does he wouldn't be the way he is as of right now he has moved into her apartment in an senior apartments. he hasn't done anything to help get the kids back but his mom still puts me down at least i let her see them i could be mean and tell her she can't see them at all but i'm not that kind of person. but when she does see the kids she critisizes everything like if were at the park she won't let them climb on the ladders and she gets on my case because i let them. they love to climb and i don't know i guess i am just blabbing and i'll stop
You know, Alycia, I asked him why he does that, and I asked him NOT to do it. Yet he does it. And, the worst thing about it, is that I never know he's talked to either of them about our business until we are talking, and he says something like, "Well, my mom (or daughter) said...". I just don't understand. I've never had this problem before, so I am new to this type of drama. I just wish he would talk to me instead of them. Our business is our business. Maybe, if I keep drilling into his head, he will get the message and preserve our privacy.
Hey J, you may have already done this, but have you asked your guy why he feels he has to tell his mom everything? That is one thing my husband doesn't do, mainly because she will blab to the rest of the family. He does complain to her about her treatment of our kids, but it just falls on deaf ears.
My mil and I have a love / hate relationship. She makes me mad alot but she is family. My fil just passed away this past November and she is alone now. My bil lives out of state and my husband does nothing for her. That leaves me. She doesn't drive so I take her every where. I work full time but sometimes she just expects me to take her places. I have a 5yo, who loves his grandma and wants to take care of her now that his Papa is in heaven. Sometimes I feel like a taxi driver.
I can truly empathize with you, Alycia. Well, she's not my m-i-l yet, but she will be, if we go through with it. Anyway, I am here to rant and rave about my significant other's mom. Why is it that she acts like I can't drive his Mercedes jeep if I want to? Why is it that she is always the first to know what I am doing to her son (in his opinion, that is)? Why, even though she knows that he is not looking at things from any perspective except his own, does she not tell him that there are two sides to a story? Why does she have her nose in our business anyway? Why does she care, as long as we are not fighting? She AND he are creating a situation where I know she's going to have preconceived notions about me, and I certainly have a them about her. Why won't she just tell him to keep our business between us, and stop running to her with every little thing? Ugh!!! She's getting on my nerves about as much as he is!
I created this site so I could rant about my Mother-In-Law. I do love her, she has been like a mother to me since I met my husband 11 years ago. (My mother passed away 14 years ago) but she drives me nuts with my kids. She obsenely spoils my 5-year-old son while ingoring my 2-year-old son unless he is in her face. When she does acknowlege him, it is usually after he has done something wrong, which then I get critized for yet again!
