well i got my kids back june 11, 2008. i am so happy to have my kids back. i have been spending a lot of time trying to get my house organized cause when they came back they brought all their clothes and toys and so i have been folding and putting clothes and toys away. i know it is going to take me a couple of days to get my house back to normal. i am having trouble with ryan. kayla is being great she is happy to be back and she is being such a big helper but ryan is being mean to his younger brothers and his tantrums are worse. i expected them to be angry with me for this all happening and i know it is going to take some time but i need to find a way to find a solution to this cause i don't need a social worker coming by and him acting like this. i don't want anything to make them want to take my kids again. does anyone have any advice on how i can make him more at ease. i try to spend some extra time with him but if he doesn't get what he wants when he wants he stomps his feet kicks the wall throws toys. or he will tell me if i don't get this then i will scream or throw something. part of me thinks i should give in cause of what he has gone through but i don't want him to walk over me. anyway i am just going to take it one day at a time and enjoy having my kids back. words can not express how happy i am that i have my kids back. it's the best thing that has happened to me for a year and a half. i needed to get that off my chest thank you for reading and also if you have any advice i would be grateful
I will tell you this. My mom had her hands full with me and my two hiper brothers. The middle one was the temper-tantrum one. She use to just ignore it until he was done. When he threw stuff she would lock it up and away from him until he was good and learned that if he kept throwing things that eventually he wouldn't have anything to play with. She would go as far as locking up the nintendo, you know stuff he really liked and would miss.
I agree w/ Mom of 3 ignore him and take something away. What else works is putting him in the corner. Yea, I know it sounds childish but it works.
You can also tell him if he's nice you'll let him watch his favorite movie or take them to the park. Lets face it. Kids love movies, and parks.
If he throws a fit walk away and ignore him. If he continues tell him you are going to take something away that he really likes. like for my son is the playstation and it works. But the ignoring thing really works he will forget what hes made at and go on his way. He wants that attention.
