Well here is an update to this story. My sister was having my two nieces and one nephew's birthday parties all together last Friday. I wasn't going to go because of what had happened between us and I didn't want her ruining her kids party by starting something. Well on my way home from work my mom called me on my cellphone, which she never does. I thought "Oh no, what does she want to yell at me for now". Well she was very cheerful and wanted to see what time I would be at my sister's house. I told her I wasn't coming and told her why. She said she talked to my sister and everything is fine with her. Well you could understand my confusion. I did decide to go to the party after all and my sister acted like nothing happened. She and I also exchanged birthday gifts and cards because both our birthdays are in March. She gave me a beautiful card. Inside she underlined loving sister and cherish forever. I am not going to push things. My sister and I had grown more close over the years and I want to keep it that way. I guess from now on I will let sleeping dogs lie.
Mary I know how you feel. I have 4 children, the 3 oldest ones are exactly 3 years apart from each other, then I had my 4th daughter when the youngest of the 3 older ones was 7. She was used to being the baby and did not like the idea of not being the baby anymore. My youngest one was born with a lot of health issues and was in the hospital 17 times during her first year. Needless to say she got a lot of attention from everyone in the family and that made my 3rd child very resentful. Today they are 33 and 26, they don't even talk to each other. I have tried to bring some peace between them but to no avail. I wish they would at least become friends before I leave this world.
Thats great. That is also part of being in a family. Me and my brother have acutally got into physical fights before but we forgot about them. Family is family good or bad. Im glad that you worked it all out.
Mary, you did the right thing by being there and putting your differences aside. My sisters and I have done the same thing but regardless of everything, we are still sisters..I have to look at things as one day one of us might not be here and the last thing I would want for them or me is to think that I hated them if something were to happen because you never know. My father last year was diagnosed with cancer and only lived 6 weeks from the time the doctor told us. My father was my best friend I am his name sake I look like him, everything! We have had alot of family problems but when this happened to him I put everything aside and I took care of my father EVERYDAY until he passed and I wouldn't change it for nothing in the world. I can't say the same for my sisters they wanted to hold on to their grudges. My piont is life is too short to not Forgive!! As my Pastor says "you Forgive because it is in obediance to the Lord, not necasarily because they are deserving of Forgiveness" words to remember.. I hope that helps you.....
Hi Mary! Glad to hear the party went well overall. I may be catching this late in the game; have you been logging about tensions in your family and I'm missing it somewhere? Anyway, sounds like some heart issues going on in there! Do you journal? I find it helpful to sort things out. I'm reading a book called Authentic Relationships, by Wayne Jacobsen and his brother Clay Jacobsen. It's good--talks about deepening relationships beyond the typical, superficial stuff! I've also read some books that deal with familial relationships (If I can recall the title I'll let you know!), and talks about heart motives and different cycles that people in family relationships go through. Is this your only sister? And are you older or younger? Just curious...
I pray you are able to confront those heart issues in a gentle, loving way, and that things go smoothly for you!
