It can be harder 2-3, because of (as others said) the others getting out the door. But, if you want a larger family then you probably love the idea of always having one more still at home. I came for a family of 6 kids and my mom always felt that the more the better for us. In fact, the more she had the easier it was to have activities and we kept each other busy. Always one baby in the family and one family leader. You're lucky to have 3, what a gift!
I had two kids close together. They were older when I had my third. In some ways adding a third was more difficult. I'd just gotten the older two off to school, and was now starting over with a baby. But because the older two were school age, I rarely felt "outnumbered" (and I was a single mom) since most of the day I only had one child at home. So it balanced out, I guess.
To me, there is no problem concerning that. The only thing you should be conscious about is the gap you give before you have another one, at least try and gap them with 4years and you will not have any problem.
going from 2 to 3 for me was hard. You never really know how much mess that 3rd one can make until it happens. Then there is the give me attention wars that happen.... not fun.... and of course the he did it she did it and no one is giving in *sigh* it is so very good that we love them! LOL!!
yes three gets to be harder dividing attention between three and wondering if you are leaving out one from the bunch. my suggestion is to you is probably like what you have heard make sure to spend quality individual attention with each one doing this will bond you forever.And dont ever doubt that you are not a good enough parent because i had plenty of thoughts will am i spending enough time with one what about the other this is all common thoughts.just pay attention your kids will then show you what they need from you.
It is going 2 to 3 gets a little more challenging
especially when you get 3 or 4 years between the
last 2. The middle child always feels neglected.
the oldest gets to do more and the youngest gets
most of the attention. Try everything as a group
or give the same amount of time to each one seperately so they don't feel left out. They also
need their personal time with you.
Toni
Hmmm...I have four kids and my experience tells me this: It all depends on the ages of the children. Going from one to two kids for me was pretty difficult, because my first was 13 months when #2 came along. However, going from two to three kids was definitely MUCH HARDER because of the only having two hands factor! Plus, I had a two and three year old at the time. That being said, going from three to four was really a piece of cake! Now, I don't know if this was just because by now I'm an old pro, or because the three older kids were past the baby stage at 4, 7, & 8. Either way, baby #4 has been a dream and by far the best experience for me! :-)
Going from 1 to 2 children or 2 to 3 children.
Seems that when you have 3 kids you move to a zone defense as you are outnumbered. Where having 2 kids you can still play man to man defense.
Thoughts??